My husband and I are finally getting moving on having the kids baptized. The main holdup has been, as I’ve mentioned, the fact that we don’t really know many serious Catholics to consider for the role of godparent. And since the role of godparent is to guide the child in their faith, especially if something should happen to the parents, our kids really need good godparents. If something were to happen to my husband and me I have serious concerns about what would happen with my children’s faith.
So anyway, we do have some good candidates for the godparents. However, I worry that since I’m not familiar with any of this that I might end up hurting some feelings. So I have a question for you guys:
If a person is married, and their spouse is also Catholic, is it insulting to the spouse if you ask them to be a godparent but not their spouse? For example: we’d like for my son DB’s godparents to be my aunt and a good friend of my husband’s (I’ll call him “Carlos”). Carlos is married to a woman who is a good Catholic. We like her but we don’t know her very well, so we weren’t considering her as godmother. Will it be an insult to Mrs. Carlos to select someone else as godmother when her husband is godfather?
Thanks in advance for any thoughts on this.